Join Me In Canada at The Authenticity Conference!

authenticity conference 1  I just recently arrived in Canada to be part of my dear friend and brother Pastor Andy Miller’s Authenticity Conference.

I am so honored and humbled to be able to serve The Life Church and his wonderful people.  Please be in prayer that this conference is a huge success and that many will be impacted by the power and anointing that comes from each speaker and singer!

The conference kicks off tonight with my a friend and mentor that has been instrumental in my life since becoming a Pastor, that is Pastor Dharius Daniels of Kingdom Church, Ewing, NJ, and guest artist Isaac Carree!!

Standing on The Rock!
Pastor Derrick Phillips

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Posted by on May 3, 2013 in Uncategorized


Take Off The Mask!

maskIf we are real honest with ourselves, , most people have never confronted their own issues.

Just like the woman at the well whom Jesus talks to in John 4, people are willing to discuss superficiality and stuff that has nothing to do with their lives than to be real with themselves or others.

People tend to live in a crowd; they have never met themselves. In fact it is possible to get so lost in what the people around you want that you never really know who you are or what you want.

The woman at the well is so confused that she is no longer bothered with the covenant of marriage; she just wants someone to be there for her, to accept and enjoy and love her. We are all pre-programmed to want that.Your sexuality is so strong within your makeup. It will get you to do the most irrational thing.

Like this woman Christians have been preached at so much but it is still not working because they have never been taught the principles of how to make relationships work. Consequently they are spiritual in church, but as soon as they get out the doors they are looking for a way to meet their relationship needs. They have a spiritual life, and then they have a secret life.

But real love is not about meeting someone in a bar and cracking a few jokes together and feeling like there is some kind of connection. It is far more than that. If you settle for that you are in danger of bringing her home but then realizing that you actually don’t like her that much once you get to know her.

Men, you are not really in love with a woman until you look at her and your first instinct is to take care of her. If your first thought is to use her, you are a charlatan.Ladies, you are not in love if your need for company and affirmation is crying out to you so loudly that you will say yes to any man who pays you attention.  You are more brilliant and intelligent than that!

Give yourself permission to learn about every area of your life and decide to take off your mask and go for the real thing. You will be so blessed by what God will do!

Pastor Derrick Phillips

Prayer:  Father, today in the name of Jesus, I pray for every person that is reading this and needs to take the mask off of their life and live genuinely and authentically.  I pray today that you will give them the strength to seize this day and move forward!  Amen!

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Posted by on February 13, 2013 in Uncategorized


Get Rid of ‘Em!

Drive out the mocker, and out goes strife; quarrels and insults are ended. Proverbs 22:10

Today’s thought: Get Rid of ‘Em!!  There is a quality that ninety-nine out of a hundred people want in their lives, peace. They want to be at a place where there is more calm and less calamity. They want to be in a state where there is more quiet and less quarreling. They want to be in a state where there is more friendship than fighting. Most of us simply operate better in our personal and business lives when there is peace in our lives. We can be more productive, inspired and motivated because we can focus on what we have to get done as opposed to what we have to get done and the ancillary battles going on around us. Peace is a key factor to productivity.

While 99% of us want peace we struggle to find it. That is where the 1% come in. Believe it or not there is a portion of the population that does not want to be at peace but only do well when at war. These are the people who are always in some sort of battle. They are always in the midst of confusion and strife. Understand that it is not by accident that these people are always in confusion, they choose to be in situations where they can start, revel in and enjoy confusion, calamity and conflict. In short, while you are trying to find peace they are looking to create chaos. The question is what do you do about the 1%. Get rid of them.

If you really want peace in your life you have to get rid of the 1%. If you take a good look at the drama, confusion, strife and conflict in your life you can probably narrow it down to a few people who are always at the root of the issue. No matter if it is your work world, or your personal world, in five minutes you can figure out who the recurring characters are in the middle of every drama that takes hold around you. If you wannabe at peace, throw out the 1%. The scripture says, “Drive out a mocker and strife goes out with them’What you will find is that peace enters your life when you get rid of the people who start the problems. So today drive the 1% out of your life. Stop taking their calls. Don’t answer their texts, emails, or phone calls. you will get the peace that you say you want.  My bottom line:  Get rid of ’em!  Have a wonderful week!

Pastor Derrick Phillips

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Posted by on July 30, 2012 in Uncategorized


10 Steps to Setting Your Life on Goals Street!

Good morning!!  I have been in constant prayer over the past few weeks about my life purpose, decisions that I’ve made, the wrong turns, and my future.  I’m a writer, I’m always jotting notes down and I have tons of notebooks, journals, and sheets of paper with revelations and thoughts on how to live the best days of my life now!  A few weeks ago at The Rock Church, which by the way if you’re in the Raleigh-Durham area, we would love for you to come and visit (yes…shameless plug)..i preached about potential.  One of my points was potential without a proper strategy is pointless.  You must have a strategy for acheiving what you know God has planted you on this earth to do.  Why because faith without works is dead!  (James 2:26)

So check out 10 steps to setting the proper goals in your life!

1. Start with Prayer If you set goals in the context of prayer, there is a much higher likelihood that your goals will glorify God, and if they don’t glorify God, then they aren’t worth setting in the first place. So start with prayer.

2. Check your Motives If you set selfish goals, you’d be better off spiritually if you didn’t accomplish them. That’s why you need to check your motives.  This is huge…Ask yourself why you are pursuing what you are pursuing?

3. Think in Categories It is easy to become overwhelmed by all of the ideas, thoughts, and dreams you have.  All of my goals are broken in categories, it is easier to manage various components and not get my circuits overload…and not accomplish anything and feel like a failure: 1) family 2) influential 3) experiential 4) physical, and 5) travel. The obvious omission is a category for spiritual goals, but that is by intention. All of my goals have a spiritual dimension to them.

4. Be Specific If a goal isn’t measurable, you have no way of knowing whether or not you’ve accomplished it. Losing weight isn’t a goal if you don’t have a target weight within a target timeline. (which i’m striving to do!)

5. Write It Down Habakkuk 2, tells us to “write the vision and make it plain…” Writing your goals, vision, dreams, and plans are effective in helping you to build momentum and stay focused! If you haven’t written down your goals, you haven’t really set them. There is something powerful that happens when you verbalize a goal, whether that is in a conversation or in a journal.

6. Include Others I used to have lots of personal goals, but I have replaced most of them with shared goals. Nothing cements a relationship like a shared goal. Goals are relational glue. I’ve discovered that when you go after a goal with another person, it doubles your joy. I say it all the time it’s better if we do it together!

7. Celebrate Along the Way When you accomplish a goal, celebrate it. Whenever you acheive steps along the way to your goal, take time to celebrate.  Don’t be so focused on your destination that you fail to enjoy the journey along the way!

8. Dream Big Your life goal list will include goals that are big and small. It will include goals that are short-term and long-term. But I have one piece of advice: make sure you have a few big, scary, audacious goals that literally scare your socks off!

9. Think Long The sad truth is that most people spend more time planning their summer vacation than they do planning the rest of their life, or planning the details of their wedding than they do the post-honeymoon life. Goal setting is good stewardship. Instead of letting things happen, goals help us make things happen. Instead of living out of memory, goals help us live out of imagination. I choose to live out to the possibility!

10. Pray Hard Dreaming is a form of praying and praying is a form of dreaming. The more you dream, the more you’ll pray. And the more you pray, the more you’ll dream!

I hope this helps and you set the goals of the remaining months of this year!  Remember this year is halfway over.. you still have time to reach your goals!  I’d love for you to comment on this post and share some of your goals in life…I want to pray with you and believe God for the best!

Pastor Derrick Phillips

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Posted by on June 4, 2012 in Uncategorized


All the Single Ladies!!!

Good morning!!  Now that the long memorial day weekend is over and you’re recovering from that Cookout Coma…I wanted to write today about an issue that keeps coming up.  Several months ago, I did a Love, Sex, Relationships series and one of the issues that was a hot button topic, was Christian singles and dating….  So in the words of Beyonce…all the single ladies listen up…  Although Beyonce made a smash hit…there’s more to relationships than putting a ring on it if you like it!  🙂

Dating is not a recreational sport, it’s a BIG DEAL and you are way more valuable than you could imagine.  There is no such thing as the perfect guy, but you should consider the following warning signs and probably should not date him if…

#1 – He Uses The Phrase, “The Ball Is Now In Your Court!” – This usually means that he is tired of pursuing you…and so he is going to abdicate his role as the man and actually wants you to pursue him!  DON’T DO IT!!  You are worth the pursuit and if you wind up pursuing him now then he is, most likely, not going to pursue you after you get married. (And GREAT marriages always include pursuit…by the man!)

#2 – He Says He Has “Issues” But They Will Get Better Once You Are Married. – Marriage is a magnifier–period!  If he is addicted to porn now it’s not going to disappear when you get married.  If he has racked up a massive amount of debt on credit cards and is unwilling to address it and make changes then you are headed for a financial train wreck…and unfortunately bankruptcy and divorce LOVE to hang out together!  Pre-marital counseling can help to bring hidden issues to the surface before you walk down that aisle.

#3 – You Have To Tell Him To “Stop” Because He Is Making You Uncomfortable! – He should NEVER put you in that position.  He is not struggling for purity if he isn’t fighting for it!

#4 – The Closer You Get To The Wedding The More Uninterested In You He Seems! – If he is slacking off in his efforts to make you feel special today…it’s not going to get better after the ceremony tomorrow!

#5 – You Only Know Him Through An Online Relationship – Anyone can be anyone online!  You have no idea who that person really is until you have spent an extended amount of time with then.  How do they handle anger?  Hurt?  Disappointment?  DO NOT allow yourself to be swept away by a guy you don’t really know!!!  and if you meet them online….be sure to be slow offline…Learn the person!

#6 – You Have To Talk Yourself Into Being With Him (enough said!)

#7 – You Have To Drag Him To Church (enough said!) Spirituality is a huge factor if you’re not spiritually compatible…again…enough said!

#8 – He Lies To You – Trust is HUGE…and, ONCE AGAIN please understand that it won’t “get better” when you get married!!!  If he does not love and respect you to tell you to truth about him now…then you can’t trust him, period.  And a relationship that is not built on trust will crash!  My wife always says, “When someone lies, they take away their choices and decisions.”

These are just a few warning signs….comment and share this with your other friends who are dating.  What are some other warnings signs you should look for?  I want to hear you!

Pastor Derrick Phillips



Posted by on May 29, 2012 in Relationships


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The Fight is Fixed!

Happy Friday!!  Proverbs 15:1 says, “A gentle answer deflects anger, but harsh words make tempers flare.” There are times in life that things just get out of hand. We have heard that someone said or did something and we are preparing for the next time we see them. We know what has happened, we know that they are not sorry and we are preparing for the next time we see them. We have started building the speech, the hand gestures, and the body language for the coming encounter to make sure that we win. We have told and retold the event in our heads making sure that we keep the levels of rage and anger at constant boil so that when the opportunity presents itself we will strike and win the battle. The problem is we are often fighting the wrong battle.

In all reality, we must fix the fight to ensure that in essence there is no fight. Many times after a real or perceived offense we are so prepared to redeem ourselves, get revenge and set the record straight that we often miss the big picture. There is little if anything that can be done about what has already happened, the fight we have is for the future. When we have already set ourselves on a trajectory for battle we miss that the other party may have done the same thing. So we now have two entities set on a collision course that will ensure an outcome of destruction. One party, or both parties will be destroyed if the battle that we are preparing for comes to a head. The real battle that we should be fighting is the battle to not have the fight in the first place.  Fix the Fight!

As we head into the weekend, prepare to make sure that we win the fight with ourselves.  The real battle is to stop yourself from starting the fight you are planning. When we come to someone with anger and malice in our hearts it is impossible to find resolution. What we find when we do this is a way to cause anger on both sides to bubble over. If we came with a kind word, it would give the chance for understanding and reconciliation without confrontation. Even if you are both angry an opening, sincere, kind word sets the table for the possibility of getting to truth and harmony as opposed to escalating the conflict from the outset. So today, fight the urge to fight. Win the battle of aggression in your own mind by finding the way to lead with peace, and see the humanity in the other person. By reminding yourself that you are better than lashing out, cussing out, and striking out you give yourself the opportunity to resolve things, not just make them worse.

Pastor Derrick Phillips

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Posted by on May 25, 2012 in Uncategorized


Give Me Some Advice

Sometimes it seems like everyone has advice for us. No matter who we are, no matter the circumstance, there is always someone willing to tell us exactly what they would do in our situation. They have thought through all of the variables, all the consequences, and all the possible outcomes and know exactly what you should do. Based on their years of expertise, best laid plans and opinions about the world they are the perfect advisor for what you are trying to settle, or are they?

The problem with opinions is that everybody has one. There will never be a shortage of people willing to tell you what they should do, but you have to be careful who you listen to. When people don’t have skin in the game and won’t have to love with the consequences they can sometimes be willing to take greater risks, bigger leaps and become far more reckless since the outcome does not directly effect them, but it will effect you. The question is how do I decide if I should follow the advice that I am getting?

The best way to decide if you should listen to someone’s advice is to consider the source. When you ask someone for their opinion don’t evaluate the decision before you evaluate the person. Someone who is not good with their own finance is not the person to ask for financial advice. Someone who is perpetually in bad relationships is not the person to get dating tips from. Someone who can’t keep a job is not the person to advise you on how to climb the corporate ladder. Many times we ask people for advice because we want someone else to validate a conclusion we have already reached. So we pick someone who will say what we want to hear, so we can do what we want to do with the added comfort of knowing that we aren’t the only person who would make that decision. The best way to get good advice is to ask people who will tell you the truth from their experience not just validate what you want to hear.

Pastor Derrick Phillips

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Posted by on May 22, 2012 in Uncategorized