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Monthly Archives: October 2011

Be Careful What you Wish For

Growing up I always heard these words, “be careful what you wish for…you just might get it.”  There are times that we have all been hopping mad. Someone has done something to us, or we blame them for our lot in life and there is only one word that comes to mind, REVENGE. We have made up our minds that we are going to get them back for what they have done. No matter what the cost, no matter how much time it takes, no matter what we have to do, we will exact our revenge. So we begin to fantasize about what we are going to do, how we are going to do it, and how great it is going to feel when we strike back. The problem is it never quite works out the way we think it will.

The truth of the matter is revenge never works for the person seeking revenge. When we set our minds on exacting revenge we actually do more harm to ourselves than we will ever do to our target. Every minute we take building the plan of revenge is a minute that we are not living our lives. Every time we rehearse the blame that we have attributed to the offender so we can stay angry at them we ensure that we will not move forward from the point of our pain. The very planning of the trap for them is actually the trap that keeps us locked in the past, stuck in the pain, and unable to heal and move forward. What we are building to hurt them is not hurting them, it is killing us.

Today, let it go. All of us have people who have wronged us in the past. There are hurts that we wish we had not experienced and wish we could forget. While we think revenge will make us feel better it really will not. Making another person feel pain will never make you feel better. All it will do is make you lose time planning, plotting and leave you stuck in your pain longer than you need to be there. The best thing you can do is let it go. Letting your anger towards them go does not make you weak, or let them off the hook it frees you to live and move forward in life.  Don’t look for revenge it will only hurt you. Let it go and take your freedom.

Let Go…Your Freedom is Waiting on you!
Pastor Derrick Phillips

Prayer:
Father, I pray today that you will give every reader the power today to let go of the things that are literally impeding their progress and their potential.  Help each and every one of us to forgive and let go.  I praise for the many people that will be blessed, healed, inspired, and empowered to walk into their greatest days ahead!  In Jesus’ Name. Amen!

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Posted by on October 31, 2011 in Uncategorized

 

Fear Is Not An Option

Fear of man will prove to be a snare, but whoever trusts in the Lord is kept safe. Proverbs 29:25

I remember having a run-in for 3 weeks with a bully in my middle school, because he tried to cheat off of me and I wouldn’t let him.  He got caught and for 3 weeks he made my life horrible.  He breathed threats of how he was going to beat me up.  For 3 weeks, Day after day I lived in mortal fear of what he might do, he always talked about how he could beat me up. He rode my bus so I tried to always get on the bus last, so I didn’t have to sit near him. He lived in our apartment complex, so I always tried to run home everyday. Every day, I found myself making decisions based on what I thought the bully might do if I bumped into him. Then one day, I got tired of basing what I would do on where someone else might be, what someone else might do, or how someone else mighty act. I decided that I was going to do what I wanted to because I wanted to.  I decided that I was going to confront his criticism and his threats.  That day I found out three things: 1) most bullies have big mouths but they have weak jaws, 2) I had spent two weeks afraid of something that I could have dealt with day one, and 3) I had the best yo’ momma jokes in my middle school… I mean jokes so good it made him wimper and retreat!!

The truth is many people waste their lives living in fear. They never do the things that they are supposed to do, or become who they are supposed to be because they have allowed what they think might happen to be more real than what is actually going on. Many times we allow ourselves to fall into the trap of thinking that fear will provide safety. However, the only thing fear really provides is a trap in and of itself. The fact of the matter is there is not much that a person can really do to you, but you can do a lot to yourself living in fear of what they may do.   Matthew 10:28 teaches us not to fear people but to only fear God.  In essence, fear can cause you to talk yourself out of hopes, dreams and a full life based on what someone else may say, do or think.

Today, break free!  Say it, “I am Free from Fear! Fearing people is no more than a trap that the enemy uses to keep you in place. The bigger the bullies that he puts in your life, the bigger the destiny he is trying to keep you from.  Just remember the story of David and Goliath. The truth of the matter is, when you stand up to the people who are trying to keep you in place, you realize that you are much bigger than the place they are trying yo keep you in. Today step out on faith and trust in God. Trusting in the Lord will allow you to see that what has been holding you back is not strong enough to hold you down. When you step beyond your fears, the Lord steps in to keep you safe. So today walk away from fear, and walk in your faith. That will make the difference between hiding from bullies and making bullies have to hide from you.  So put your fists up and fight, because FEAR is not an option!

Fear Is Not An Option,
Pastor Derrick Phillips

Prayer:
Father, I pray for every person that reads today.  We rebuke the spirit of fear, as your word teaches, You have not given us a spirit of fear but of power, love, and of a sound mind!  No give us the power to confront whatever bully is standing in our way.  Whether it’s depression, anxiety, or stress, we will no longer retreat in fear.  We praise for the power to not only confront our bullies but to conquer!  In Jesus’ Name. Amen!

 
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Posted by on October 27, 2011 in Uncategorized

 

Obscurity is Not An Option

 Matthew 5:13-15 say, “13 “You are the salt of the earth. But if the salt loses its saltiness, how can it be made salty again? It is no longer good for anything, except to be thrown out and trampled underfoot. 14 “You are the light of the world. A town built on a hill cannot be hidden. 15 Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house.”

Have you ever felt like you’ve gotten lost amongst the shuffle of life?  That you are just another worker at your job, and your true attributes are being smothered by the demands and expectations of everyone around you?  All too often we forget that we are to be distinctively different.  We are not to conform or emulate those around us. We must never forget that God created each and every one of us with unique giftings, talents, abilities, and yes…even personalities.  However, sometimes as a result of a need to fit in, to flow with the crowd,  or the social norms in our environments, we tend to hide who God created us to be.  In doing so, the essence of who we really are is hidden and made ineffectual.  In essence, because we’re hiding who we are under the auspices or label of other’s expectations, our true value and effectiveness is in a place of obscurity.

Obscurity can have its advantages in certain periods in your life. However, God never intended  for you to stay in an obscure place.  Obscurity in this sense means that you are tied to the normal, mundane, routine pattern in life and cannot muster up the courage and tenacity to do and be different!  Understanding and being able to celebrate your own uniqueness and difference is the key to living a confident and victorious life.  Christ says, that we are the salt of the earth.  We are the people that should influence corporations, governments, churches, and society.  If we conform to the standards and expectations around us, we are not fit but to be thrown out and trampled under the feet of men.  I don’t know about you, but I do not want to live in a perpetual state of obscurity, where there is nothing unique about me, and there is nothing special I bring to the table.  Out of all the billions of people in the world, you are the only person with your thumb print.  You are so distinct that if you were lost, they could send out dogs who smell your scent to come and find you.  You are so UNIQUE!

Many times people are looking to us to be a light, but obscurity will cause us to hide our light under a basket and refuse to let the effervescence and brilliance that’s within us shine forth.  Certain experiences, trials, and tribulations in life can push us into a place of obscurity.  But today, make a declaration and a life decision that obscurity is not an option for me!  I’m going to let my light shine, because there is someone that can benefit from my smile, my encouraging word, and my testimony.  And when you make that declaration, God will make your light stronger and even brighter.  Today, go ahead, dust that light off and be salty… You have something brilliant people need to see!  Show forth God’s goodness and His Grace.

Obscurity Is Not An Option
Pastor Derrick Phillips

Prayer:
Father, I pray for every reader today.  I pray that you will remind them of their significance and their value.  Father, I pray today that you will open opportunities for them to let their light so shine before men so that you will be glorified!  I pray that you will increase their confidence and their esteem, so that they will never return to a place of obscurity ever again.  I praise you for all of the good things that are coming!  In Jesus’ Name. Amen!

 
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Posted by on October 26, 2011 in Uncategorized

 

Failure is Not An Option

This week I am so excited about what God is doing in this season of our lives. I am even more excited about this coming Sunday’s service at The Rock Church Raleigh!  It’s OUTRAGEOUS OCTOBER SUNDAY!!  Can’t you sense my excitement?  We are going to have a great time in the presence of the Lord and blessing some families!  As I’ve been preparing the message for this Sunday, I want to take this week and drop a few nuggets and thoughts from what God has shared with me.  I pray that it will bless you and encourage you.  And if you’re in the Raleigh area, make plans to worship with us (check out the ‘Events’ page to see the flyer or visit www.rockthecitync.org ).

Have you ever felt like a failure?  Have you ever wrestled with the feeling of accepting defeat?  The scriptures teach against failure.  For instance, Proverbs 24:16 (NLT) says, “The godly(righteous) man may trip seven times, but they will get up again.  But one disaster is enough to overthrow the wicked.”  Can I encourage you today?  Look at the scripture….it says a godly or righteous person may trip or fall seven times but they WILL get up again, but one disaster is enough to destroy those who are wicked.  That indicates that sometimes bad things happen to good people, but Good people get up!

Most of us have had our plans, our dreams, and wanted to make our mark on the world, but somewhere in the process we’ve fallen. Most people want to do something significant in life. We want to make an impression on the world that allows us to leave a legacy for those to come. We want to have an impact that gives meaning to the time that we spent here. Some people want to be happy and live the life they’ve always dreamed. Other people want to be of service to the world, making things better for people who are less fortunate than they are. No matter what impact we want to have, everyone who wants to do something great has two things in common, great inspiration and the risk of failure.

If you’re going to live life, or accomplish anything of significance in life, you have to be willing to risk failure. Not everything that think of or try works the first or even the fifth time. What separates those of us who make a difference from those who do not, is the willingness to get back up and keep trying after they fail. Many of us have the scars from failed careers, failed marriages, or various experiences in life that have failed.  Guess what, we all fail from time to time, but we should not let failure stop us. When God gives us the inspiration to do something, he does not guarantee immediate success, but he does guarantee that he will be with us as long as it takes. All God is depending on us to do is to press on even in the face of failure.  Successful people are the ones that are able to “forget those things which are behind, and press forward to mark of high expectations.”

Failing at something does not make you a failure, and it does not discount the plans that the Lord has for you, your value, or your significance.  Falling down and staying there is what makes someone a failure.  All of us make mistakes, make bad decisions, come up short and on occasion fall flat on our faces. The difference between those who truly succeed and those who do not is the willingness to try again. God gives us the strength to get back up when we fall and try again. When we get back up after failure we are expressing faith in God being able to work his plan through us, in spite of us. So next time you fall sort remember getting up is a sign of faith in knowing that God is not through with you yet.  Look around you…you survived things that destroyed others. You were able to get back up and walk…yes you may be limping a little, but walk on because Failure is not an option for you!!

Failure is Not An Option,
Pastor Derrick Phillips

Prayer:
Father, I thank you for every person that is reading this blog today.  I pray that you would strengthen them and re-ignite their drive, their passion, and their tenacity to get back up and start living life!  I thank you for the many scars that indicate that though they’ve fallen a few times, they are still here and still surviving.  Allow them to see your hand working in all things, and that you’re bringing them to a great place of victory!  We praise you in advance.  In Jesus’ Name. Amen!!

 
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Posted by on October 25, 2011 in Uncategorized

 

You Can Break The Cycle

Have you ever said to yourself, seems like my life keeps repeating the same cycle?  Truthfully, all of us have at some point or another had the experience of say, how do I keep ending up in the same exact situation?  Whether its in relationships, jobs, or just the thing we call life; somehow many people find ourselves repeating some of the same exact things.  All of us have seen how the cycle goes. We do something or make a decision. We get the result of having done it. We don’t like the result that we are getting. We make the decision, when we get out of this, we will never do this again. We walk away having declared our independence and feel refreshed, clean and free. A little time goes by and we come looking around the same place, for the same thing. We know in our hearts that we have learned from the last time and it will not work out differently this time. We won’t make the same mistakes again, until it ends up being the same thing on a different day.  Albert Einstein once said, “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again expecting a different result.”

Oftentimes our lives begin to fall apart not because of what we do, but because we don’t really learn from our mistakes.  In essence, the failure to learn, opens the door for us to repeat the same cycle.  It may have a different face, different look, different style, or even in a different location, but in essence it is the same thing. We start in the same place, the same result is inevitable. It is not our wit and guile in the process that dooms us, but rather that we rarely learn not to play the same game over and over. Simply put, when you get out of a situation, the best thing to do is clean off the residue of the event and move on. There are some people, places, and things that no matter what you do along the way, ALWAYS lead to the same place. So rinse yourself off, but don’t go back!

The fact is wisdom doesn’t come from trying to improve on a bad strategy, but rather trying something new to begin with. It is human nature to believe that we are right. We will go to extremes to prove, that we were not wrong, we just made a mistake along the way. In doing this we can spend years, proving ourselves wrong but never accepting the proof. Today, admit that you were wrong. Rinse off the dirt of the past and make a new start. Sure it will be hard. Your ego will be bruised, but you will also be free to move on with your life. Once you get rinsed off, don’t go back. Sometimes your greatest strength is exhibited when you have the power to walk away and refuse to go back, rather than stay and settle for substandard living.  Greatness awaits you so break the cycle!

Pastor DP

Prayer:
Father, I thank you for every reader today.  I trust and pray that you will grant them the power to break every negative cycle that has been in rotation in their life.  I pray that you will release them and open up fresh new favor, new streams of income, and new opportunities.  I thank you for a new outlook and perspective in their lives!  In Jesus’ Name. Amen!

 
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Posted by on October 21, 2011 in Uncategorized

 

Memories….

Good morning!  I am excited about what God is doing in my life and the life of our Church,  The Rock Church.  If you haven’t been to The Rock Church, you simply just haven’t been to Church!  This month, I’ve been teaching a series about Handling Dark Emotions.  If you’re in the Raleigh area, come visit and fellowship with us.  I’ve talked about Emotional Burnout, Rejection, and having a broken heart so far.  Our emotions can be dangerous if we do not put them  in check.  Have you ever noticed that some people allow their emotions to govern or rule their lives?  I want to tell you today that what we keep in our hearts, spirits and minds are the things that are most valuable to us. There are memories that all of us have of good times that we reflect on to make us feel better on bad days. There are people who we think of when we are down that have the ability to bring a smile to our face in the most difficult of times. Our memories have the ability to be the pick me up that we all need from time to time when life just is not going the way we planned. Memories can also be a downer if we allow the wrong memories to govern our lives.  One of the things that I’ve taught recently is that you have to be strong enough to let go of memories that keep you in a state of paralysis.

Proverbs 17:9, “Love prospers when a fault is forgiven, but dwelling on it separates close friends.”  Life is never predictable and many times we lose people because of a fault, but we must find the power to forgive if we want to move forward in life.

There will be times in life where  you will experience things that you may not completely understand.  There will be times in life when the closest of our friends, the ones we have the most fond memories of will let us down. They may say something that we do not appreciate or do something that we find to be thoughtless. They may unwittingly divulge a confidence or forget a special occasion that we thought they would never overlook. In the course of a friendship there will always be highs and lows, the question becomes which memories will you hold on to. Which memories will be the ones that you carry in your heart and your mind?

The memories that you choose to dwell on are the ones that are the most valuable to you. There comes a time when you have to stop valuing the hurts and mistakes of the world and set your mind on the joyous memories that preceded the mistake. We have to realize that the mistake is not the largest memory that we have. If you peek around that memory you will find a treasure trove of memories of good times, great experiences, and wonderful times of support that built the friendship that you are now questioning, or what you’re experiencing. Staying on the mistakes makes the mistake more valuable than the friend or relationship. There comes a time when you have to decide that the friend is more valuable than their mistake.

Pastor DP

Prayer:
Father, I thank you for your grace to forgive and your love that covers our faults and our sins.  I pray for every believer who is reading this blog today and I pray that you will help them to see the value in their relationships and their experiences. Help us to find the grace and love to forgive as you have done for us.  In Jesus’ Name.  Amen!

 
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Posted by on October 17, 2011 in Uncategorized

 

Enjoy Where You Are

Have you ever thought about the fact that sometimes we don’t realize what we have? When we are young all of us want to be older.  We couldn’t wait to move out of parents house to get our own space, own food, and own job…not recognizing that it comes with our own bills!  When we were growing up we couldn’t wait to drive, and as we get older, we now want someone to drive us around.  We anxiously look forward to things in life that are just not available to us yet. So we become envious of people who are older than us because we think they are having more fun than we are. We see them going places, doing things, drinking things and think I just can’t wait to be older.  Or we think if only I worked on that job, or lived in that neighborhood, I could be enjoying the same things. By contrast when we get older we often look back and want to have the things of our youth back. We want to get a nip here and tuck there, and wear things a little shorter, tighter and brighter so that we can relive the days of yore. It seems the young wish to be older and the older wish to be younger.

The truth of the matter is appreciating where you are is better than wishing for what you don’t have. The great thing about youth is that you have strength and time on your side. When we are young our bodies are prepared to take the beating that comes from living a full life. We don’t have to eat right. We don’t need much sleep. We have the strength to work on becoming who we will be. As we age, we have the joy of having the knowledge that can only be gained through the experience of having lived life. Having lived long enough to have experience on our side we know how to avoid trouble because we have been there and done that.  Don’t become frustrated by wishing you had something someone else has, or longingly looking at how people seem to be so much further than you.  Wherever you are has a purpose.

Today, make up in your mind to enjoy and celebrate where you are.  It may not be in the same place as someone else, but you’ve definitely accomplished something. If you are young, appreciate that you have your whole life ahead of you. The future is limitless and all you have to do is take the bull by the horns and go for it. If you have a crown of grey hair you have the benefit of a life well lived. You can look back and remember where you have been, what you have seen, and how you made it through. The gift of that experience is you don’t have to make the mistakes of youth ever again. So take the time not to look forward or look back today, just enjoy where you are.

Enjoying Where I Am,

Pastor DP

Prayer:
Father, I pray for every reader today that they will find peace, joy, and content in knowing that you have them just where they need to be.  Give them the power to celebrate and enjoy the place that you have them, and teach them how to be anxious for nothing.  We praise you for the journey we are on, and we are looking forward to great things happening in our lives!  In Jesus’ Name.  Amen!

 
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Posted by on October 13, 2011 in Uncategorized