Good morning! I am excited about what God is doing in my life and the life of our Church, The Rock Church. If you haven’t been to The Rock Church, you simply just haven’t been to Church! This month, I’ve been teaching a series about Handling Dark Emotions. If you’re in the Raleigh area, come visit and fellowship with us. I’ve talked about Emotional Burnout, Rejection, and having a broken heart so far. Our emotions can be dangerous if we do not put them in check. Have you ever noticed that some people allow their emotions to govern or rule their lives? I want to tell you today that what we keep in our hearts, spirits and minds are the things that are most valuable to us. There are memories that all of us have of good times that we reflect on to make us feel better on bad days. There are people who we think of when we are down that have the ability to bring a smile to our face in the most difficult of times. Our memories have the ability to be the pick me up that we all need from time to time when life just is not going the way we planned. Memories can also be a downer if we allow the wrong memories to govern our lives. One of the things that I’ve taught recently is that you have to be strong enough to let go of memories that keep you in a state of paralysis.
Proverbs 17:9, “Love prospers when a fault is forgiven, but dwelling on it separates close friends.” Life is never predictable and many times we lose people because of a fault, but we must find the power to forgive if we want to move forward in life.
There will be times in life where you will experience things that you may not completely understand. There will be times in life when the closest of our friends, the ones we have the most fond memories of will let us down. They may say something that we do not appreciate or do something that we find to be thoughtless. They may unwittingly divulge a confidence or forget a special occasion that we thought they would never overlook. In the course of a friendship there will always be highs and lows, the question becomes which memories will you hold on to. Which memories will be the ones that you carry in your heart and your mind?
The memories that you choose to dwell on are the ones that are the most valuable to you. There comes a time when you have to stop valuing the hurts and mistakes of the world and set your mind on the joyous memories that preceded the mistake. We have to realize that the mistake is not the largest memory that we have. If you peek around that memory you will find a treasure trove of memories of good times, great experiences, and wonderful times of support that built the friendship that you are now questioning, or what you’re experiencing. Staying on the mistakes makes the mistake more valuable than the friend or relationship. There comes a time when you have to decide that the friend is more valuable than their mistake.
Father, I thank you for your grace to forgive and your love that covers our faults and our sins. I pray for every believer who is reading this blog today and I pray that you will help them to see the value in their relationships and their experiences. Help us to find the grace and love to forgive as you have done for us. In Jesus’ Name. Amen!