As we approach Thanksgiving, I wanted to take the time to first say thank you to those who faithfully read my blog. I pray that you are being blessed.
This morning I received news regarding a young colleague in ministry that passed away last night. It was unexpected and right before Thanksgiving. Now, his wife and two children are left without a pastor, a husband, and a father. As disturbing as that news was, even more saddening was the fact that when he’d gotten sick, his family, friends, and associates were no where to be found. Can you imagine alone in his darkest hour and hardly no one to comfort his family in their time of need. His wife was alone in the hospital for these last two agonizing days. Now left to plan funeral arrangements during a time of the year when friends and family should be eating, and celebrating one another. The question could be asked where was his family, the hosts of brothers and sisters, or where were his friends?
Hearing of someone’s death can cause you to begin to reflect about yourself and your own life…you know the what ifs? Hearing the news made me begin to evaluate my relationships in life. Today people don’t value relationships as they used to. As a matter of fact marriages, friendships, and relationships are so volatile that we just throw people away and move on to the next as if it were just something disposable. There are so many things today that are disposable. They are built to be temporary, here today gone tomorrow. With so many things created to pass away it is no wonder that we rarely think of anything as permanent any more. We have created a throw away culture, that allows us to always think in the here and now, but never for the long term or lasting. From relationships, to furniture, to cell phones, razors everything is disposable or at the very least upgradeable.
That is why when we find something that is truly built to last we are so impressed, if we recognize it. Wisdom is a house hewn out of seven pillars. When something is hewn, it is constructed out of a single piece that is chiseled and formed through rough blows. It is not a pretty process, but it is one that creates a piece that is solid, has integrity, and can’t be easily moved or discarded. This is the process of gaining wisdom. Wisdom is one piece that over time has been chiseled, and now forms a permanent singular piece. This wisdom is just like our relationships…they are built through a process of good and bad, but nevertheless they must be solid.
Today, take a good look at what relationships are disposable and what is permanent in your life. Is most of your life, your relationships, and friendships made of throw-away materials or are you building a life that is hewn of something sold. There will come a time when living will certainly test you and those around you. It will examine the very essence of your being and character. At that moment, what your relationships and life are made of will be revealed. Take the time out to build your life, your ministry, your relationship out of solid materials. It may not always be pretty, but you will be built to last.
Building to Last,
Pastor Derrick Phillips
Father, as we enter this holiday season, I pray for families, relationships, and friendships to be restored in a Godly fashion according to your will. I pray for the reader today who may be dealing with situations in life where everything around them has been disposable and now they feel in this season as if they have nothing to show for it. I pray a special blessing upon them, and help them to build to last. Thank you for all the many wonderful things that are taking place in our lives. In Jesus’ Name. Amen!