Sometimes it seems like everyone has advice for us. No matter who we are, no matter the circumstance, there is always someone willing to tell us exactly what they would do in our situation. They have thought through all of the variables, all the consequences, and all the possible outcomes and know exactly what you should do. Based on their years of expertise, best laid plans and opinions about the world they are the perfect advisor for what you are trying to settle, or are they?
The problem with opinions is that everybody has one. There will never be a shortage of people willing to tell you what they should do, but you have to be careful who you listen to. When people don’t have skin in the game and won’t have to love with the consequences they can sometimes be willing to take greater risks, bigger leaps and become far more reckless since the outcome does not directly effect them, but it will effect you. The question is how do I decide if I should follow the advice that I am getting?
The best way to decide if you should listen to someone’s advice is to consider the source. When you ask someone for their opinion don’t evaluate the decision before you evaluate the person. Someone who is not good with their own finance is not the person to ask for financial advice. Someone who is perpetually in bad relationships is not the person to get dating tips from. Someone who can’t keep a job is not the person to advise you on how to climb the corporate ladder. Many times we ask people for advice because we want someone else to validate a conclusion we have already reached. So we pick someone who will say what we want to hear, so we can do what we want to do with the added comfort of knowing that we aren’t the only person who would make that decision. The best way to get good advice is to ask people who will tell you the truth from their experience not just validate what you want to hear.
Pastor Derrick Phillips